To all the moms who have been chosen to love and care for a "special one"...be blessed this day with the poignant words of Erma Bombeck:
"Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures, and a couple by habit. This year, nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children. Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen? Somehow, I visualize God hovering over Earth selecting His instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As He observes, He instructs His angels to make notes in a giant ledger:
'Armstrong, Beth....a son....Patron Saint, Matthew.'
'Forrester, Marjorie....a daughter....Patron Saint, Cecilia.'
'Rutledge, Carrie....twins....Patron Saint....give her Gerard, because he's used to profanity.'
Finally, He passes a name to an angel and smiles: 'Give her a handicapped child.'
The angel is curious: 'Why this one, God? She is so happy.'
'Exactly', smiles God, 'Could I give a handicapped child a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel.'
'But has she patience?', asks the angel.
'I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she will handle it. I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and independence. She will have to teach the child to live in her world and that is not going to be easy.'
'But Lord, I don't think she even believes in You.'
God smiles: 'No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness.'
The angel gasps, 'Selfishness? Is that a virtue?'
God nods. 'If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she will never survive. Yes, there is a woman I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a "spoken word". She will never consider a "step" ordinary. When her child says "Momma" for the first time, she will be present at a miracle and know it! When she describes a tree or sunset to her blind child, she will see it as few people ever see my creation.'
'I will permit her to see clearly the things I see----ignorance, cruelty, prejudice----and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be by her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side.'
'And what about her Patron Saint?' asks the angel, his pen poised in mid-air.
God smiles. 'A mirror will suffice.'